Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

     The other day I was asked by a gentleman if I liked sports.  Not particularly was my answer.  Why, I asked.  He said that his wife of four years was lamenting over football starting in a few weeks and that she would lose her husband to it until the season was over.  I looked over at him as if I were waiting for the punchline.  I was thinking, where was the problem in this situation?  The sports lover asked me what my take on spouses spending time watching sports instead of being with their spouses was.  I stated that there were no issues for me that my husband spent his time watching sports instead of being with me.  Actually, I let him know that I thought it was great that my husband was able to enjoy watching sports without me.

     In fact I really preferred him to go enjoy his favorite pastime.  With a curious look on his face the man cautiously asked me why.  My reason was simple.  While my husband was busy watching sports, I was studying, shopping, or enjoying my favorite pastimes.  I enjoy listening to all types of music while I quilt, write poetry, read novels.  I do not expect my husband to like everything I do.  Let's face it, its not like your spouse is out handing out bills at a strip joint!  They are just enjoying some sports either alone or with other sports lovers.  Hey better them than me!  

     Yes, I do admit that when I was younger I was insecure and clung to my man.  I even endured sitting on the couch and watching (actually sleeping through) hours of endless sports.  Heck, I even bought him tickets to different sports events and attended with him.  That was the young me who wanted to please my man and overlooked my likes and wants.  Now that I am more mature, I realize that in order to make one another happy you need to communicate, trust and  support one another.  If sports makes my spouse happy then more power to him watching it.  Likewise, I know that my husband also wants me to do what makes me happy.  

     After we indulge in our hobbies we do come together and enjoy doing things we both like.  Being in a committed relationship takes give and take.  If you allow for time apart from one another you will both grow to appreciate the time you do have together all the more.  The old saying, "Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder" is really true.  The time you spend doing your own thing will nurture your relationship and show your partner that you care enough to give them space.  You will reap the rewards when your loved one enjoys the time you do spend together! Have a positively Blessed day!

The Universe Makes It Right

     Yesterday my son asked me about a situation in which I had a loss of funds. He was very concerned over the loss since it involved his lack of enthusiasm and motivation that made me lose the money.  A little background on me, I have been unemployed for a year and a half and am currently in college.  Funds are tight at the moment and my son is concerned about money we could use.  Anyway, I told him I was not worried about it and neither should he.  He asked me why I had such a nonchalant approach to the loss.  I relayed to him my belief that "The Universe makes everything right".  He looked at me very baffled.  I explained to him my theory.
     I began with the theory of energy.  Energy is finite.  You cannot make it or lose it.  Energy is transferred not lost.  Energy is recycled over and over again throughout the world and universe.  I feel the same about everything that happens in our universe.  When I have a loss, someone else has a gain.  If I feel ill, maybe someone feels better.  If I am feeling sad and lonely, someone out in the universe is happy and loved.  I truly feel that everything and everyone on the planet and the universe are interconnected.  With that, I believe that my loss of money is someones gain.  When the universe is ready I will have those funds returned to me in one way or another.  My son looked at me like I was a wacky hippy and shook his head while he walked away.
     My belief comes from my desire to be positive.  Maybe the need for me to believe that through my negative experiences  someone on the opposite side of the world could have a positive experience drives this belief.  I would certainly hope it to be true. I really hope that my children take this theory with them throughout their lives so they will know that every action or inaction they make affects others.  Hopefully this will drive home the point that all humanity is interconnected and dependent on one another.
     So today I took my golden retriever to get groomed.  He was pretty stinky and needed some pampering, as he has been recovering from an ear infection.  Long story short.....his expensive grooming tab turned out to be free!  The universe is awesome!  I told my son when I got home and he was shocked.  I said, "I told you the Universe would make it right!"  So I hope someone that may read this blog, who is experiencing a difficult time in their lives, take from it that patience and positive thinking will see you through until the Universe makes it right for you!
     Have a positively blessed day!